Explain the suicide of a close to children

Explain the suicide of a close to children

  Whether an uncle, an aunt, a relative or friend who takes his life, it is still extremely difficult to understand and to swallow for the relatives. We say that we have perhaps not been the ear which the person would have needed. It also said that if we had been there, it would not have happened.

Suicide happens when a person touches rock bottom and if we can sometimes understand why it is always difficult to explain to children why that person has not raised and why she did not seek solutions, as they are taught to do so.

Take the blame

 Almost all relatives of a suicide inflict a part of the fault. They remember most tense moments of conflict or distance. Some had not spoken to him for months, others had not had time to see him and avoided him most unlucky because they did not know how to help.

  Yet it was nobody's fault. Those who saw the least were not close enough to make a real difference, and those who loved him with all their heart could not have been better listen to this person who had nothing more to add. It is the despair that pushes to suicide and despair speaks unfortunately much stronger than family and friends.

And if I had been there?

  This is another way to blame. We say, "What if I had been there to talk to him, to stop him ...". Again, no one can be blamed for this terrible act. If you had been there, the person would probably have expected departure. This is not the fault of loved ones is of no one's fault.

   To add to the difficulty of prevention, a suicidal person sometimes becomes suddenly optimistic. If that person has planned his suicide, she can perceive this moment as an upcoming release. It thus found some good humor, time to do some gift and say goodbye. If that were the case, even if you had been there you would not have been able to observe his distress.

Prevent further suicides

  One of the biggest risks of suicide is the possibility that others see this avenue as a potential solution and do the same. The recent death of actor Robin Williams which was extensively discussed has also raised fears that many ultra-publicized suicide has a ripple effect. Suicide arouses reflections on life as funny and does not blame the person that we never see again, we tend to look for her reasons.

  During the following months, watch his relatives to prevent the suicide of a person becomes wave of suicides, especially among adolescents living in great pain and barely learn to accept failures, heartbreak and Friendship sentences. Moreover, it is a good time to explain to someone who has the melancholy that depression must be taken seriously and it is important to speak or consult when feeling unhappy and helpless . Sometimes just talking to a professional once to find that our perception gives an enormous magnitude to our problems.

Explain suicide to children

  Suicide is just the most extreme expression of despair because of which the people are so mentally and emotionally affected they are no longer able to find a solution.

  Without going into the details of mental health, take time to explain to children that the person who committed suicide was sick. For a child, this decision may take several strange faces and its interpretation can vary trivialize this gesture to believe that it is her fault. To prevent this event disrupts too, better explain the situation in medical terms.

  As with any loss, so take the time to check the impact of events on the child. When he hears conversations, when he sees the coffin, when he goes to the cemetery and when he sees relatives cry of pain and rage, he will, too, need support. Keep an eye on your child and sit whenever you receive a shock or pain reaction. It will probably need to talk and you are best placed to explain what happens with words he understands.

  Help a friend in need is a new resource presented by Facebook Canada in collaboration with Kids Help Phone. This document provides simple and practical tips to help young people aged 15-20 to identify potential warning signs that may indicate that a friend is thinking about suicide.

  So far in 2014, 7.5% of young people who contacted Kids Help Phone mentioned suicide as one reason to ask for help, representing thousands of youth across Canada.